Love and Marriage

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^{Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord Ephesians 5:22}

^{There seems to be a lot of misunderstanding concerning this scripture. Some people simple ignore the scripture because they don't like what they think it means. Others go overboard trying to enforce this scripture. The Bible says to look at the whole thought and not just take one idea and run with it. I believe that if you look at the scriptures that follow this verse it will make things clearer.} 

²³ For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. ²⁴ Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

 ²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her ²⁶ to make her holy, cleansing^[a]her by the washing with water through the word, ²⁷ and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. ²⁸ In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. ²⁹ After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—

It seems to me that there is more said about how a man should love his wife than how a women should bend over backwards for a man. In addition, it says, "as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything." Now there should not be a Christian who has a problem submitting to Christ. However, there is. It also seems to me that there is sort of a military order to all of this. Christ is the head of everything. He is the first line of defense. The husband is over the woman. He is in charge of taking care of her. What woman does not want someone to love her, care for her, and take care of her? All the woman has to do is respect her husband. If he says do not go somewhere, instead of arguing with him respect his wishes. It is possible that he can see the danger that you can not. With that said, a woman should never do anything that goes against solid Biblical teaching and she should never stay in a situation that causes her harm. Remember a good, true husband loves his wife. There is no fear in love.  If he beats her, causes her shame, humiliation, or fear then that is not a true husband. It is time to leave.